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One way to avoid emotional outbursts with our children is to understand the difference between tasks, problems, and conflict. Tasks are the normal things parents do each day. You get kids out of bed, make sure they’re dressed,
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Here’s an important rule: Don’t turn problems into conflict. Instead look for ways to turn problems into additional tasks by developing a plan to solve them.
Training children is a task, not a problem. The difference has to do with your expectations. If you’re surprised by your son’s resistance to instructions,
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Develop a plan to challenge the poor character in your son and you now can approach the task of raising him using a calm, but firm manner. It’s just another one of the tasks of your job as a parent. Take the time to source out the character weakness causing the problem and strive to help your child develop the correct attitudes and co operation that is necessary. Children need to understand that their choices have consequences and it is their responsibility to choose wisely.
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